He's crying again!

He's crying again!

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Crying, snarling, protesting, or demanding full volume ... even if we say it inevitably, production comes from a two-to-three-year-old child.

In almost every family, hysticism is common in a certain age

Your request for a hysterical platform is one of the problems facing parents with small children, and this is what the contents of our mailbox and telephone conversations indicate. Some moms are particularly frightened of the phenomenon: the so-so-timid, well-behaved child seems to have failed. The life of the family is overwhelmed by the incalculable seizures of will. At first, I reassure my mother: the child is perfectly normal. The second step is harder. I need to know what family hysterics are called.


The hyster is the most parents - especially one who has experienced on their own skin what it is like to hold a raging seedling - something mysterious, without reason, expressing the child's intent to act badly. Many also call themselves hysterical when a child has a good reason for "going crazy": he has been given a painful, insoluble task on the street), terribly cool, or not safe. In these cases, as a general rule (the psychologist parent is not always an exception!), Instead of admitting our own mistake and comforting the little one, we are even more disgruntled and then crazy to let it go (!). Let's keep these reactions from being called hysterical. And now let's get to the subject!

The magic of magic

The trifle for months is absolutely certain that like a big mogul it has unlimited power over the world. Until you learn how to survive (freeing both hands) and learn (which is the beginning of quick and effective relocation). In this case, the world turns out of its corners. The parents, who until now had only baby dolls, smiled at him and were at their disposal, suddenly began to behave strangely. They say when you start to snack on the blossom - though so far they have always tasted "handy" eating by hand. They run and yell when they start ringing the lantern, which is hardly different from the teddy bear's string. They panic when they start down the stairs alone, even though they were crazy when they first got up! Who knows this? "Get me my old parents here !!!" - you could say it right, and you can. Snr, snr, snr. But they still don't.


As we approach the age of two, the child begins to become suspicious. We know for sure that you have realized by now that you must not carry that miserable lamp cord. You love it! If we observe, we find that the leaders are not interested in anything. With a defiant gaze, he looks at our face: how do we behave if we shed the light again? He has recently become aware that the intentions of different people may differ from one another: Mom, Dad, Grandma, and most of all, think about the same thing. Now he feels the irresistible pressure to come to an end: are we serious about what we are saying? Where's the limit, how long can you go? If you always get the same result, you will close the exam soon. If the subject (the adult) is not a successor, the little science will throw him or her into another and newer ones, not give up. He does not "malign", simply wants to understand what we are doing.
It can be the same goal when you refuse to push into your stroller and in the worst of the sixth time the groundbreaker cuts his cap - that is, pulls the match. It is not uncommon for a hobby to be followed by hysterical, well-known sound effects and action scenes. The drone age kills at the age of three. However, the hysteria does not disappear (have you ever seen a hysterical adult?), Especially if the child can also consider the results of experiments: this is the method by which he (mother) can reach out to him.
The Elders learn the best way to be consistent.

Йn, йn, йn!

It's hard to imagine, but the fact is, the Newbie doesn't know that he or she is a good part of the world. Simply put: you have no genius. For a good while, she has no idea that she's hungry, she's laughing, she's raising her hand, and, in general, that calf's paw is her. It takes a lot of time and a lot of experience to differentiate myself and make a revolutionary discovery: I am Jin. When consciousness awakened, he gave it full steam to confirm it. "I Want It!", "Alone!", "That Mine!" The family is in trouble, no one knows which move or comment the fire from the small volcano brings. When grown up, you can't tell why you can't have it when you get the bread together, why not put it on, so Mom wears the zipper in the jacket. He is constantly measuring his strength, wanting to be sure again and again that he can make an impact on the world.
Since feelings are still controlled at this age, minds have little or no effect (see box). It is not a good idea to give a mountain talk, especially not about the concepts of African hunger or love and empathy. If you get stuck in the hysterics, you are inaccessible. In simple words, we are going to speak emphatically. Let's try to preserve our cold blood (though we may feel that we've been light on our breasts so far) and make sure the little one is calming down. It may be worthwhile to get close to you, but it is not a bad thing to leave the site for a couple of minutes, or distract yourself with something terribly exciting. The point is not to "reward" this behavior, either by giving or paying full attention to the child at the hysterical occasion alone. Even if your egg is on the bottom, it's smart enough to learn that it is worth tapping.

The case of color pencils

Our author vividly remembers the day when she received the World's Most Beautiful Pencil Set for her birthday. So a puppy-like little kid has produced incredible hysterics to make the coffin a yellow pencil. It failed to explain to him that his inventory was so full and that he could use all of them at any time. After a while, with the heavy weight of his birthday, he handcuffed the little pencil in the corners of his eyes to the frumpy sister of the poor pencil. Well, that's all I needed! The hugger, now staring at his beloved belly, began to weep because he was hurting his sibling. They were all barking together, and the pencil wasn't too old.

Preventive Practices:

  • Before we say no, let's ask ourselves the following two questions:
    - Why did I forbid him?
  • If you start to cry, will you keep saying "no"?
  • If you have given yourself an acceptable answer to the first request, and the second answer is yes, there is little chance that you will be uncertain. Parent insecurity is the best hysterical lure!
  • In the "I want it" era, it is best to let him, of course, not pour hot water into the glass, but press the lift button or put on shoes - why not? It takes a great deal of patience, this is the greatest paternal virtue.
  • Being lenient is not equal to being free. If you can do anything at any time, you never know what will happen to him in the next moment. The child needs a series of constraints, handrails, an order of the least order, he does not feel safe in the outside, and he can be hysterical.
  • Democracy is a nice thing, but we only involve children in decisions that they have enough knowledge and experience. We can't even trust you to choose a dress for your two-year-old because you don't know what kind of weather it will take. If you get over it, the "histi" will be legitimate. You may also find it a heavy burden if she has to choose between two beautiful skirts. He wanted to wear both.

Book: Michelle Kennedy: Ebadta's Puppy Believes - 99 Yours Advice for Parents and Grandparents (Képzõmûvésszeti Edition)
Eileen Hayes: The Faith… Or: How Do We Understand the Minds of Our Child? (Alexandra Edition)

Just not to get dehydration!

Not all children are affected by the drumming age. Most uncomfortable is when the little lurking loses consciousness for a second in hysterics. The body is scary: roaring, kneeling on the ground, losing breath, and lying unconscious, with muscle spasms. The pediatrician calls this phenomenon a febrile seizure. After the stuttering ended, it was as if the baby had been replaced. Some of them occur once a week, but only once during the whole rack season.
It is rare for a true disease to be present in the back: EEG testing excludes epilepsy in most cases. However, it is by no means reassuring to see a doctor when you first experience such intense distraction.
There is usually no need for medical attention during dehydration, but it is important that parents do not panic and keep calm. Be with the child, or at least close by, pick it up when needed, but stay calm, determined. There is a good chance that your child will experience that he or she will never do anything with anger, so maybe stop it sooner. If we give the scene much more importance, we will be very energized, suggesting that loudspeaker can attract more attention.
Avoid situations that lead to dehydration. We'd rather get out of the crowd, especially if we have street or fair vision. In general, the mother knows what her child is up to, and she sees in her face, in the movement, that the cord is always torn. In this case, distract your attention, let us put in some new things! (But it shouldn't be more delicious!) Let's try to get to a place, such as home, where you can give out your meal. Because with our tricks, we're just pushing for picking.
Don't even want to quench your fury, you sometimes have to let go. The problem will only be solved with the help of the drone era. However, the more relaxed we are, the easier it is to get through these difficult times.

The little bird flies here!

At the age of one year, the young child's will voluntarily manifests itself, which is why it is becoming increasingly common to make concussions. Explain what is really important (why something happens the way we want it to be), but you can't be expected to accept it anyway. We can prevent hysteria by distracting or distracting.
Let's prepare in advance with a little detail if we know that we are ahead of the action test (blood doctor, restaurant, valuation). Let's hide a few surprises in our crafts: mother tongue, balloons, fingers, special, never-seen items, such as a cassette tape. Fold your hair out of the color advertisements in hand. Let's travel through the imaginary waves, on the little kid's thighs. Let's start with a little story. Let's toss the balloons up a little, so they can be ripped, twisted, and won't pop out. Let's draw a face and do a medical exam. Instead of a bunch of familiar storybooks, we can take a small photo album with us to exchange pictures.
If the fever is quenched with a cooling bath, playfully absorb it to make it into the water. Let's make a big foam bath and hide the treasures (small cars, shells, colored pebbles) that land on the bottom of the bathtub, and encourage them to find them under the foam.
In a stroller, in the car, steer the attention of a curious little kid: where a kitten runs, a bird flies, and a tractor bustles. Walking is easier when you push something: a stroller, a dump truck. If we don't have one like that, let's just pop in one more close-by destination: see how much puddle there is in front of us, can we skip it? The bird is sitting there, is it waiting for us, or is it scared to get there?


Between the ages of six months and the age of one, tiny wetsuits roll up so much that they lose consciousness for a few seconds. The angry child's face is getting thinner, and then he suddenly falls silent, palser, his body relaxes, and he does not breathe. The fright is scary to keep us calm: in a minute or so, the child is recovering. Loss of consciousness is caused by lack of oxygen, not related to epilepsy.
If we paint on the child's face, we can get out of the first reflexive breath sooner. Let's stay by it and be careful not to kill yourself, then let it rest for a while if you are exhausted. If it happens more than once, you are already aware of the early signs of dehydration, and you may be able to prevent loss of consciousness by effective distraction. With a strong enough stimulus, such as an unexpected ringing of the door, you can prevent the baby from being angry. With our calm attitude, we are led to believe that it is not worthwhile to be upset, it does not affect us. We can be sure that he will come out of the drumstick over time and not be overwhelmed by his feelings.